Sunday, February 04, 2007

Pleading for Advice and prayer

Deut 4:10 Specially the day that thou stoodest before the LORD thy God in Horeb, when the LORD said unto me, Gather me the people together, and I will make them hear my words, that they may learn to fear me all the days that they shall live upon the earth, and that they may teach their children.

I long to see my children grow up to know God, but sometimes I wonder about my oldest daughter. I know Kara is only three (well, almost), but many times when we talk with her or discipline her, she will either laugh us off or her eyes will look cold and defiant. Is this an attitude that is normal among children who are testing their boundaries, or are we in for the time of our lives with Kara?

Let me give you an example. Yesterday, we went to the grocery store. JA took Lydia, Andy, and the groceries out to the van while Kara and I stayed inside to pay the bill. Next thing I know Kara takes off and runs towards the parking lot. When I grabbed her and brought her back, I squatted down to talk with her. While I was talking with her, she just stared at me defiantly. Please Pray for her that she will come to know her need for salvation.

She totally refuses to acknowledge any wrong doing on her part whether it's lying or blatent disobedience. Instead, when punished she says "Mommy you mean!" or "Mommy, you hurt me" (even if all we are doing is holding her wrists to talk with her). I must admit that I find myself getting frustrated with her on almost a daily basis.

Kara, finally sleeping after spending the day with the flu.

Just a side note, Kara does have some moments where she can be extremely sweet. My heart melts when she comes up to me out of the blue and says "I Love You" or "I help Mommy"


Alicia said...

We're not there yet so I can't offer any experiential advice. I will encourage you though to keep doing what you're doing and to be consistent! I've heard from many parents that being consistent and not giving into children that age will pay off months from now! I'll pray for you today, sister in Christ.

Tata said...

You have a beautiful, tender mother's heart. JA was my only child who had temper tantrums. :) When JA was very young and before his brothers were born, I prayed and asked God that not only would He save all my children early in life and give them a heart to love Him, but that He would save their spouses and their children, and their children's children and spouses until He comes again. God has been answering prayer. You're doing a great job, Tracy. I will pray extra that God will give you the reward of joy for your faithful child training. Thank you for raising Kara. He will continue to guide you in the way. He will bring encouragement along the way in the form of good books, seminars and good advice from people.
I love and appreciate you,

robertlhall said...

I think child rearing is the most fearsome ministry I have to look forward to. I would be lying if I didn't say that I am scared to death. I guess in a lot of ways it will show me how incapable I really am and drive me to greater dependence on Christ.

Conleys said...

I, too am not there, yet, as Alicia, said, so I can only imagine, these are things we get to look forward too. I am more aware every day of the need of prayer and dependance on God to draw their hearts to himself. We have to be consistent in training also, but getting to the heart of the issues is tough. I'm sure you are doing everything you're able, just need encouragment to keep sowing! A book that might help is Don't Make Me Count to Three! by Ginger Plowman